Ready to go

In 24 hours we'll know for sure how and when mom will treat her cancer--likely with a short but intense burst of radiation (other methods of treatment are less likely). Talking to her tonight, she's ready to know how it will go, and ready to start. Nichole and I have to say we feel the same way, for what it's worth.

Mom's condition is fine. She's a bit sore from the surgery and struggling with a nasty head cold and (I suspect) the after-effects of the painkillers, but is feeling better each day. Thanks for all the prayers and nice comments. Not unnoteworthy, she and dad celebrated 31 years of wedded bliss today, so congratulations are in order as much as prayers.

I thought I'd tell you about a couple of things that really caught my attention this week:

Gacie's Bridal and Special Occasion, a downtown Springfield boutique owned by friend and fellow Ozark High School graduate (and Tiger Pride Band alum) Andrea Alcorn, is holding a Pretty In Pink Prom Fashion Show to benefit the Breast Cancer Foundation of the Ozarks this Sunday, February 25, at her store at 431 S. Jefferson (that's in the Whilhoit Plaza, just south of the downtown YMCA branch). The shindig begins at 2 p.m. and the $5 entry fee will let you gander lots of great dresses and other pretty things...those of you with juniors or seniors in high school will especially want to attend. Again, it benefits BCFO, a stellar organization.

Also, I hope you'll check out a particularly moving feature by the Springfield News-Leader (I can't believe I just typed those words). It's an online slideshow and conversation with Drury University assistant women's basketball coach Trish Marsh, who I had the pleasure of interviewing multiple times when I was sports editor and then editor of the Drury Mirror from 2000-2002. Trish is fighting the fight against breast cancer, and the story (told entirely in her own words) is moving and heroic. Do check it out.

I'll be back with an update on mom's appointment tomorrow. Love to you all.

ML

This train is a-moving...

UPDATE: Sorry I screwed up the formatting on this post. Ignore the bars on the sides of the text--it's not your computer.

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Well, we met mom's surgeon, the famed Dr. Buckner (my bosses inform me he's a past winner of 417 Magazine's Top Docs award...so there's that), and we couldn't be more impressed. No-nonsense, but extremely reassuring, he made us all feel better about this journey. Here's what the Springfield Area Chamber of Commerce had to say about Dr. Buckner on its website. Don't confused: He was in Iraq when this appeared--and will be returning to Iraq in a few months.

"Dr. John W. (Bucky) Buckner, a CoxHealth surgeon now serving in Iraq with the U.S. Army. Dr. Buckner is known for bringing improved cancer diagnostic techniques to the Springfield community. Since early 2005, Dr. Buckner has been part of a forward surgical team in Baghdad where he is serving as a major in the U.S. Army reserves."

Seriously. Dude goes to IRAQ. AND he ran the Boston Marathon. Mom is going to be operated on by Superman.

The big news: The action will begin on Friday, when mom has her lumpectomy, which is the first and most important step for two reasons: 1. It's gets what's left of the tumor out of her body and 2. What they find around the tumor and in the neighboring sentinel cells (basically a lymph system test) will tell us if the cancer has spread. Doc says all indications are it HAS NOT.

If that's the case, mom will begin radiation. Here's where things get exciting. Can I use that word in relation to breast cancer? Maybe. Dr. Buckner is one of a few local doctors who offers the MammoSite treatment. That's where, instead of a external ray of radiation beamed into the breast, a balloon is placed inside the cavity where the tumor used to be. Then small radioactive beads are placed inside the balloon, treating the surrounding cells from the inside out. Side effects are fewer and less pronounced, treatment time arrives sooner and is shorter in duration. The official website is here, with more information than I could ever conceivably explain.

Of course, the lumpectomy and lymph test has to come back clean (we'll know sometime next week), but having this new-ish but very very successful new technology at her fingertips is something mom is excited about--and so are we.

Finally, a word about the blog. Thank you to all who have left posts: old friends, family, friends we see every day, friends we haven't seen in years, people we've never seen at all. It's all so appreciated, and no doubt has helped fuel the successes we've had already. Also, feel free to start leaving comments on this post--no need to scroll all the way to the bottom unless we're going for some kind of record (which is fine by me).

ML

Help is out there

Hey everyone. Sorry for the depth and length of the first post. It pretty much violated very rule of good blogging that I've learned in my journalism career, but I thought the full picture was important.

As you see, I was able to add a photo! It's not the best picture (smile dad, sheesh!) or, from Christmas 2005, the most recent, either. But it's all I had on my computer. More to come.

Thank you (from Susan as well, if you haven't read through all the comments, hers is about halfway down) for your wishes and participation so far. I know the community will continue to grow. It's quickly become clear to me that this will be place for everyone to share their experiences with cancer--as well as their support for mom--and that's perfect. I'll try to keep the content fresh, interesting and, ahem, brief when possible.

On to the useful portion of today's post: There are lots of businesses and local organizations that raise money and awareness of breast cancer, including:

The Breast Cancer Foundation of the Ozarks: BCFO was founded by Mary Beth O'Reilly here in Springfield, and is one of the Ozarks most successful local charities. You can read their website, which is flush with support groups, interesting links and fundraising opportunities, at bcfo.org.

Cancer101 is a not-f0r-profit I came across in the latest issue of New York magazine. It's got all sorts of helpful tips and, while not a local group, has some big-time sponsorship clout. Boo-yeah!

The American Cancer Society's Relay for Life is, of course, the most well-known cancer fundraiser. Susan has participated in this for years (her mother is a survivor) and now has extra reason to walk some laps. One Central High School Relay team, made up of Nichole's students, has already adopted her as their "name." More on this as details emerge. Those kids, they love their Mrs. Lemmons!

For those into viral networking (it's not as dirty as it sounds), there's a Facebook group already formed in support of Susan (those Central kids again:-) You'll have to search for it, but those of you who know how will find it, I'm sure.

Kaldi's Coffeehouse in Springfield (900 E. Battlefield Rd., 417-881-5466) sells bags of coffee and mugs that benefit breast cancer research (as evidence by the pink ribbons...at least I think it's not for Valentine's Day). Either way, the coffee is delish.

That's all for now. If any of you know other groups or places to support breast cancer research, do let me know by commenting below. I'd love to get those groups active in this blog, at least as commenters/guest contributors.

And, as always, notes of support for Susan can be left as comments, as well. I'm also interested in your personal stories--everyone has been touched by this disease (the boobie kind or otherwise), and this is a place to share. If you would rather send me an e-mail than leave a comment, just send it to matthew.lemmon@gmail.com.

Love to all!

ML

I wish to God this blog didn't exist

But, much like the Chicago Cubs (that link is no accident), this blog does exist, and it exists for my mother, Susan Melanie (Grubaugh) Lemmon. Those of you who manage find your way to this site early in "Susie's Fight" will know all about her—the kind person she is, the helpful, cheery, out-of-control sweetheart she is...the wonderful friend and mother she is. You may not know exactly why you're here.

Susan was diagnosed yesterday (February 7) with breast cancer...a very small tumor, very early in its existence. It is, however, invasive, and surgery and/or treatment will indeed be needed (we meet with the surgeon on Monday at 9:15). Honestly, I hope to God that this blog lasts about a month, that radiation and a lumpectomy and Vigilant Prayer by the Christian Women's Fellowship at Ozark Christian Church are enough to beat this. But I'm not naive—I can see many of you, veterans of the cancer, shaking your heads (this kid is sooooo disillusioned). Cancer's a bitch, tough to beat. I don't pretend otherwise; but Hope, it is a pill we all take from time to time, especially in choppy waters.

For those of you who don't know Susan, she is a 54-year-old Kindergarten teacher from Ozark, Missouri. She is short, round, sandy haired (going gray—please ma, don't hate me), prone to Christmas sweaters and hugs. On the day we found out she had cancer (Yesterday? Just yesterday?) she wore a pink shirt, pink "Find a Cure" socks, burgundy corduroy pants and a smile that only disappeared for about 15 minutes. That says everything you need to know about Susan.

Here's a quick breakdown of our family: She's been married for 31 years (on February 20) to Curt, my dad, also 54, who suffered a massive stroke in 1998. He thankfully survived and thrived, with an iron will and a soft heart, but his speech and mobility are limited. He cannot work or drive. That Susan has only gotten nicer and sweeter in the eight years since the stroke is to her credit, as well as my dad's. But this is not my dad's blog.

I am Susan's only bouncing baby boy, Matt. I'm in journalism (bolder readers may check out the fruits of my labors here), and my wife of four plus years, Nichole, is a teacher at Central High School in Springfield, Missouri. We are busy, with no children, and only a (right now) ridiculously annoying Yorkie to offer as grand-uh, dogs. This is most certainly not our blog.

Susan's parents, Neal and Betty Grubaugh, live across the street from Susan and Curt, still in the house Susan grew up in (it's all a bit Everybody Loves Raymond, yes). They are 84 and 80...something, respectively. Neither is in good health, and Susan has been their primary caretaker, especially since the onset of Parkinson's in Neal and the discovery of cancer in Betty's lung just last April, which against all odds she has survived to this point. But this is not their blog, either, though anything that brings awareness to untreatable diseases will bring them joy and (fingers tightly crossed here) some help.

My dad's mother, Geri, lives in a retirement apartment here in Springfield. She's an independent, slightly hobbled (but very healthy) woman who set aside moving to a new condo so as not to worry mom. That doesn't mean she won't move in June, but we love her for the gesture just the same. She's never owned a computer, and it's not her blog.

Susan's two brothers live on the east coast: Myron near Philadelphia and Tom near Richmond, Virginia. They would kick my ass if I tried to make this their blog. Seriously. Kick my ass.

So those are the major players. I'll try to introduce other people to you in context when they surface during Susie's Fight.

So that's the background, as if most of you didn't know. I hope this site will serve as a "home base" of sorts for all of us to talk about mom, for me to share news from the doctors, updates on her progress and maybe some photos and funny anecdotes. Mostly it's to support Susan/Mom/Mrs. Lemmon...Susie...whether she reads it or not, whether she ever even needs all the prayers that will surely be offered up to whatever gods are worshiped out there. It's here, we're here, and she's here.

Let's lift her up as she's lifted up all of us.

Leave your comments/wishes/questions below. I'll work on getting this site updated with recent photos, and hopefully a link to a worthy organization so we can donate our money—as well as our thoughts and energy—to fighting cancer.